It’s that time of the year here in New England. The air is crisp and it has a hint of the aromatics of “Fall”, my favorite time of year.

I was born in the fall and I have a theory that people’s favorite season is the one they were born in. Is that true for you? Perhaps not, but it’s certainly true for me.

It is 7:34 pm as I write this and my darkened window reminds me that winter and the time to go within is near. That very reminder is a perfect opportunity for me to practice mindfulness and being in the moment.

Today I already thought of where the snow blower would go in the garage. I wondered what kind of weather challenges this winter would bring. I then realized that I was not in the present moment. I was distracted from sniffing the subtle change in the air and feeling the coolness of the fall breeze against my skin. In my mind I was already plowing my driveway, ridding it of the millions of snow flurries that will inevitably visit. Ahhh, a wonderful reminder that living in the moment is practice, no matter how long you’ve been practicing, there’s always more to learn.

I personally am someone who needs light. Sunshine that lasts deep into the night on summer days is like eating my favorite flavored ice cream cone; delicious. The darker months of the fall and winter challenge me as they do many other people. I can feel my body already responding to that change with tomorrow being the cusp of September’s bloom.

As the years go by faster and faster, I notice not wanting each season to end because it only reminds me of how fast my life is going. The gift however is that I am reminded of time passing. This reminder gets the fire in my belly burning all that much hotter to do something meaningful with whatever time I have left on this rock that someone named “Earth”.

So this fall, I will practice gratefulness that I have lived to experience once again, the crisp cool air and the smell of the first log in the fireplace. I will “practice” smelling the scent of the day, in the moment, and when the first snowflake does arrive, I will smile.

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Remember to Love Yourself Today

Our inner critic takes up a lot of space in our busy minds.  If we spoke to our friends as harshly as we speak to ourselves, we would likely be pretty lonely.

It’s amazing how hard we women can be on ourselves.  Always a little voice saying “I’m not good enough” or “I’m so fat, I can’t stand how I look”, or, “I’m not smart enough to get a better job” or; any of the other endless possibilities of unkind slogans that go round and round in our heads that keep us in a cycle of unhappiness.

So how did we become so critical of ourselves?  Well, that’s multi-layed for each of us, but what most of us have in common are the messages that our culture and society have given us.

We try to measure up to standards created by other’s and taught to us at a young age. How sad that “Loving Yourself 101″ is not the first classroom experience for each child.  Instead, we learned that how we look and what grade we achieve are the measurements of our self-worth. Well perhaps we won’t change the systems that are in place around us, but we can change our thoughts and learn how to love ourselves every day.

So how do you begin to learn how to love yourself unconditionally, non-judgmentally and with kindness?”

For starters, begin noticing when you are not treating yourself well.  Pay attention to those moments of self-criticism and begin a practice of speaking to yourself as though you were talking to your very best friend.

What would you say to your friend when she is being hard on herself?  What would you say if she was exhausted and needed to rest but kept going anyway?   Perhaps you might invite her to rest, to take care of herself and remind her that it’s ok to take a break?

I imagine whatever you would say to your friend, you would likely be kind, patient and understanding towards her.  So the good news?   You already know how to treat someone well.  Now all you have to do is transfer that knowing and kindness towards yourself. With time, you may even become your own best friend. 

Janice Borghoff is a Certified Meditation and Stress Management Consultant and Founder of A Peaceful Woman ~ Find Your Inner Calm
A Peaceful Woman is a counseling and education service for women helping them to improve the quality of their lives by growing self-compassion, reducing anxiety, stress and grief using natural, alternative and integrative approaches.

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The Luna Center for Natural Health

I am happily honored to join my counseling practice: “A Peaceful Woman ~ Find Your Inner Calm” with Dr. Emily Miller at “The Luna Center for Natural Health”. We will be hosting an open house on Saturday September 15th from 1-5pm. Healthy foods and beverages as well as unique giveaways will make it worth the trip!  We look forward to meeting you!

The Luna Center for Natural Health
660 Central Avenue Suite 201A
Dover, NH  03820
603-592-5575   Dr. Emily Miller, Naturopathic Doctor
603-973-1252   Janice Borghoff  A Peaceful Woman ~ Find Your Inner Calm